Monthly Archives: November 2011

American Card

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The other day, I had the chance to meet up with Kinzi. I have been following her blog for a while and since I am in Jordan, I thought why not! She graciously agreed to meet me! After a mishap with the location being closed, we sat down and got to talking!

One of the many things we discussed was the “American Card”

American Card in my dictionary is a tool you use when you want to claim ignorance towards a situation…Like, driving. “Oh, I can’t drive this way? I’m an American” and you get off. Or with cultural customs.

I tend to get off on the “American card” for a variety of reasons, living in the US, an American mother and my sweet nature…(Just kidding with the last one!)

Now, the American Card isn’t to be abused…but to be used during times of need. Like staying out late, not adhering to the cultural customs and other things.

Please use this “card” with caution. It can get you into trouble and I am not responsible for any trouble you get into.

A wedding and 3 potential suitors

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This past week was my brothers wedding! Mabroook to them both! I wish them a full and happy life.

It was truly a great event. Lots of people, lots of dancing and lots of food which in my book equals to all good things. My calves hurt the next day from all the dancing I did, with my new dance moves that I learned from my younger cousins. (I wonder what I was doing while they were dancing? Another story for another time)

I was informed before the wedding that 3 suitors would be coming to “See me”. My family didn’t really tell me much about the guys and I just decided to let it go….okay, not really but I tried my best! As we were dancing the night away, one of my cousins informed me that my dad’s neighbor wanted to see me. I went over to say hello and she did the covert signaling thing. Another lady came up to me and I thinking she was someone from the family that I forgot(It’s hard to keep track of all our family members), greeted her warmly. She then informs me that she went to Umrah with my father and “would like to get to know me” This is how our conversation went.

Lady: I want to get to know you (All said in Arabic, of course)

Me: Blank Stare

Lady: How old are you?

Me: 26

Lady: I didn’t hear you.

Me. 26

Lady: Shocked look on her face. “Where do you work?”

Me: I don’t work in Jordan.

Lady: You don’t live here?

Me: No, I live in the US. I’m here for my brothers wedding.

Lady: Grumbles something.

I just walked away. What do you say to that? How do you respond in these situations?

I went back to our table and informed my family of the story. I think what got me the most was their reaction. “What?? Why did you say that? Why didn’t you say you would be willing to move to Jordan?”

I’m not good with being put on the spot, expected to perform. And for what? So, a guy might like me? Or his mom? I think not!

The rest of the wedding went well, I continued to get my dance on and at the end of the night. My dad informed me that another guy had introduced himself to my father on the men’s side and said he was there to see me.

2 down, and I don’t know what happened to the 3rd.

I think what bothered me the most was that I wasn’t given a choice. I was informed that these people were coming and it wasn’t a discussion. It felt like I didn’t have a choice, or that whatever choices I want to make for my life don’t matter as long as I get married. Marriage should be my end goal, but it isn’t. I was there to enjoy my brothers wedding, dance, visit with family and friends and be merry which I did…So, I guess in the end. It all worked out.

If you are wondering what happened with the potential suitors. Here is the story: That guy from the men’s side said he would wait for the person who set him up to come back from Palestine and the other 2…I honestly don’t know.

Oh, the joys of being set up!

The Sunnah of Love

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A friend of mine posted an article titled “The Sunnah of Love” on facebook today which I believe is very fitting since we just dropped off my brother at the airport. He is getting married next week in Jordan and this is a beautiful reminder of the sunnah of the prophet Mohammed (SAW) and the love he had for Aisha (RA).

I love this part of the article:

You would have heard that the Prophet ṣallallāhu ‘alayhi wa sallam mended his own shoes at times. What you may not have heard was how once as he was sitting in a room with ‘Aisha raḍyAllāhu ‘anha fixing his shoes, ‘Aisha happened to look to his blessed forehead and noticed that there were beads of sweat on it. Mesmerized by the majesty of that sight she remained transfixed staring at him long enough for him to notice.

The Prophet ṣallallāhu ‘alayhi wa sallam said, “What’s the matter?” She replied, “If Abu Bukair Al-Huthali, the poet, saw you, he would know that his poem was written for you.” The Prophet ṣallallāhu ‘alayhi wa sallam asked, “What did he say?” She replied,

“Abu Bukair said that if you looked to the majesty of the moon, it twinkles and lights up the world for everybody to see.”

So the Prophet ṣallallāhu ‘alayhi wa sallam got up, walked to Aisha, kissed her between the eyes, and said,

Wallahi ya Aisha, you are like that to me and more.”

Big brother, I hope you follow the sunnah of the prophet in regards to love.

May Allah keep my brother safe on his journey through marriage and following the sunnah of the prophet.